I wonder how you reacted when you read that! Did you go “of course it does”? Were you intrigued? After all you know how much emphasis I put on the power of the mind, of our unconscious/our subconscious mind over everything in our lives, on self image.
So, what do I mean “it doesn’t matter what you think”? It’s actually a play on words and it’s all about emphasis… where you put the focus in that statement, where you put you, how you emphasise you! And where I’m putting it is as if you were talking to someone else – you are saying “it doesn’t matter what YOU think” – not in a rude tone of course, and most of us wouldn’t say it out loud but… it is a really important part of achieving our goals and our visions. It is critical to our self image…
Another way of putting it is “what other people think of me is none of my business” – that gem I learnt from a business coach some 10 years ago and it’s powerful.
What does this really mean for us? It means that instead of worrying what other people think we just focus on what we think, what we believe, what our internal compass/life source/God whatever we call it tells us. And this is incredible because… so much of life is spent worrying about what other people think!
When you get away from that, when you aren’t influenced by what other people think about you – then you can become authentic and then you can relax.
And how do you do it? You just make a decision! And you start valuing your opinion more, valuing what YOU think more, valuing the insights you get. Your image of YOU is what matters, your self-image.
So does is matter what you think? yes. And does it matter what anybody else thinks about you? no. But… in passing, if they think you are great I should take it onboard, so long as you really believe it!
with love
Karen xx